tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2713190877260762271.post5700576264335038020..comments2024-01-27T03:41:10.496-08:00Comments on Tantra Movement Love blog: Clarity - The way out from confusion. My wish for relationship to change the futureMichal Tantrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09077380463639781048noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2713190877260762271.post-7926844115447968462015-06-08T13:30:08.775-07:002015-06-08T13:30:08.775-07:00 26.5.2015 - Last reflection of me going out from ... 26.5.2015 - Last reflection of me going out from relationship concept, having someone special and = obsession in to more and more unconditional Love<br /><br />I choose for Love - this unconditional - and to achieve unconditional Love we have to ¨uncondition¨ our self not only from sex but also even from love( this conditioned ones ) . Somehow it gets to me feeling that make someone to special is connected to some obsession in us. Something feel in me more and stronger that no one should be more special or rather we all suppose to be special. This feels more like unconditional love. It´s still very new, fresh feeling in me, what still have to grow and get strong. Still I´m not sure about it but somehow it feels good to be in that direction.<br /><br />I´m aware that not every one would agree on that but agreeing is not the point because we are in different perspective in path of life. Acceptance for each other and not harming - Ahimsa is very important in any togetherness, healing and sharing love.<br /><br />From other side understanding and seeing things in bigger picture, being active even violently if needed to stop bigger violence. Let the love not fear lead us to better universe. Connecting on every level with whole as deeper as possible. Michal Tantrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09077380463639781048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2713190877260762271.post-19756237062445235972015-06-08T13:27:22.251-07:002015-06-08T13:27:22.251-07:00
Myrthe
10 Mar
Hi Michal,
I like to respond ... <br />Myrthe <br /> <br />10 Mar<br /><br />Hi Michal,<br /><br />I like to respond to your message about your wishes about relationship(s). I like it that you are communicating about it to create more clarity. What I don’t like, is that I feel that how you describe your last choice makes it seem like you wouldn’t think that this kind of partner would have much to offer you. You only talk about helping her, about healing she seems to need, not about any value she has anyway. I like it when there is no limitation, possessiveness on any side, though I feel it is important that anyone can feel free to express feelings of jealousy, insecurity and the feeling that you wish you could have the other person for yourself. Expression of these kinds of feelings shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing, but maybe as something you could work through by being open and accepting about it that these feelings just arise and need some attention. But in a relationship where someone is just regarded as someone who needs healing I don’t feel like she could work through her insecurities that well. How can she become confident enough about herself if she’s getting the message that she can only be someone’s last choice, less valuable than others?<br /><br />I prefer relationship anarchy (http://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy), relating to people without any hierarchy of love. I might sometimes feel more love for one person than for another, but that’s not my preference and I certainly wouldn’t want to keep it that way. I would not choose to love someone more than others, because that would also mean I choose to love others less. So that would be a limitation of my love and I do not want to limit love. And I would also not ask of anyone to love me the most (and thereby love others less). Of course there can be practical reasons to invest more in one relationship than in another. I can understand some polyamorous people tend to use terms like “primary” and “secondary” to describe different levels of commitment, though I would not prefer to use such language to discriminate between my relationships because it may seem that it has something to do with difference in levels of love which I don’t want. I like this article because it can maybe make this topic a bit clearer: http://www.lovemore.com/poly/hierarchy-in-polyamorous/<br /><br />If I would call any love primary, for me it would be universal love. Any specific relationship would have to support this universal love. I would rather lessen my commitment to any specific relationship that isn’t supportive of my universal love, than lessen my commitment to universal love. I like that my contact with you supports universal love. I like assisting you with tantra, talking with you, being sometimes in physical intimate contact (like hugging or cuddling) and would also like to engage in different kinds of activism with you. I don’t know yet which role I want tantra to have in my life. Expressing love is a priority for me, and tantra is one way to do that, but not the only way. If I would learn how to teach tantra I feel open to teaching it with you for some time (it might be until goddess Kali on the white horse arrives to teach with you ;)).<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />MyrtheMichal Tantrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09077380463639781048noreply@blogger.com