Saturday, December 29, 2012

Best wishes for New Year 2013 and new dimension!

In the new year 2013
In new dimension
We wish you all:
Happiness, Peace, Love and Freedom
We wish you, that together we would change climate for better.
We wish you that all people and animals would be free from cruelty,
deportation, prejudices, exploitation and all other bad things.
We wish you, that You would fulfil your
Good dreams .
We wish you successful actions
We wish you life satisfaction
wish You, that you will do everything to realise those dreams.
That You will never give up in the fight for them.
That You would always seek that, they became true.
If You will do, we believe that  You would achieve a beautiful victory.

You would win yourselves.
The biggest changes are beginning from the single being.

Changing ourselves
The longest way starts with the first step.
That's what we wish You.
Changing Your universes for better.
After would be easier.
And mostly we wish You a lot of Love.
Because Love is the most beautiful thing in the universe
The biggest power, what would conquer all
We wish You that You would realise that.
You would use it, You would learn about it,
You would love and You would be loved.
Start with Yourself, then beloved, family, friends
Don't stop here
Let Love spread and develop,

Love Your neighbours and other people
And not only people,
Love Animals and all living being
Love our planet, take care
It's Your home. Your health depends from it.
Everything is interconnected.
As more You love as
more You are  loved.
As more You give as more You get.
We wish You to realise that.
We wish You that You will study most important thing

Study the Love, source of Life...
They are many things You can learn what would benefit You
Tantra, sexual tao,kamasutra others
Ancient teachings secret and sacred.
Now they are open for all not just for the elites
Don't miss this chance and privilege.

We wish to You to learn how to Love

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Bliss(1997) Only one tantra movie ever ?

Complete lack of movies about tantra in world cinematography doesn't show that this subject is still kept in secret? Only now in a different way ? ( You can discuss on this subject by leaving a comment )

Bliss(1997), Movie Review from

"Bliss" is a wonderful and inspiring movie that addresses a very important and yet sensitive issue in modern life. Joseph and Maria are the perfect young married couple or so it seems from the opening scene of the movie but very quickly they discover that unfortunately there is a problem in their relationship. It seems they are not having successful sex. Joseph is upset to learn that Maria has been faking her orgasms and this drives a wedge between them.
Joseph is trying to understand what he can do to solve the problem and save their marriage. To his astonishment Joseph discovers by chance that Maria has been visiting a local Tantric sex therapist who is well known for his frequent "meetings" with a lot of women. Carried by his emotions of jealousy and anger Joseph decides to visit this man and soon he discovers a new world which changes his life and gives a totally new and radical point of view about sexuality and his life.

The Tantric sex therapist, named Balthazar, introduces Joseph to the world of Tantra and shocks him by teaching him the secrets of Tantra and opens the door for Joseph to learn that lovemaking for men is much more than the common short sex sessions that most men know, the popularized Hollywood style, short lovemaking which ends when the man dissipates quickly his sexual energy and loses his power and vitality. All this without the woman or himself really reaching deep satisfaction. Attention here - this applies to some very important teachings in Tantra yoga that has been kept secret for centuries.

According to great Tantrics and Yogis, the process of orgasm for man is an art form really, that should be studied. The secrets of retention and conscious sexuality can lead to true pleasure and even deep psychological positive changes and eventually even spiritual evolution. This is done by learning various techniques of breathing and different postures that actually can be learned in a matter of weeks or months and thus make available for men the control over their sexual prowess and even experience multiple orgasms which will be much more sublime and beneficial for themselves and also for their sexual partner. This is just scratching the surface of the story of tantra which is unknown or sometimes even ignored by many people in modern life, and rarely presented in cinema. That is exactly what makes "Bliss" such a unique movie.

Late on in the movie "Bliss", we find that Joseph soon starts to practice these techniques and slowly learns to discover how to make his lovemaking experiences with Maria much more rewarding and beneficial for her especially after they both find out that Maria was sexually abused as a child by her father and that lead to her present frigid and frustrating condition.
The conclusion of this movie is special and brings hope into a topic which is not addressed much in cinema today, actually "Bliss" is a rare movie in this way, since no other Hollywood movie in the last 10-15 years has tried to address the issue of Tantra so openly and furthermore it shows how so many problems in modern life could be solved wonderfully by learning the secrets of Tantra and improving the sex life and so transforming it into a spiritual path.
Final verdict: 3.5/5
Written by Udi and Moses.

So we are left with some good links

Monday, December 24, 2012

Liefde ideeën,projecten.Doe mee!

tekst van

coniugium logo small'Coniugium' is een Latijns woord dat verbinding, huwelijk en gemeenschap hebben betekent. De naam van de Europese beroepsgroep voor complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulp- en zorgverleners dekt daarmee grotendeels de lading en de inhoud van hands-on en body-on intiem en seksuologisch lichaamswerk.

Het Coniugium concept is ontworpen naar het idee van Fred Traugott (tantrikus & seks-educator) en Tara Long (cognitief - en neuropsycholoog, transpersoonlijk psycholoog, klinisch en lichaamsgericht seksuoloog, seks-educator). Het initiatief tot het oprichten van een beroepsgroep voor complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg is genomen in februari 2009.

In mei 2010 is allereerst het informatieplatform de Connection vormgegeven en opgericht, vooral om het publiek en professionals informatie te geven over dit beroepsveld. Het informatieplatform is een stichting i.o.. De toekomstige Europese beroepsgroep Coniugium zal een verenigingsverband worden. Er is besloten tot een Europees verband omdat het aantal mensen dat in het complementaire en integrale seksuologische veld werkt als professional binnen Europa (en dus ook Nederland) nog bescheiden is. 

Op initiatief van de ontwerpers van The Connection en het Coniugium concept heeft in 2009 een globaal marktonderzoek plaatsgevonden. Dit is uitgevoerd door Nederlandse communicatie- en marketing studenten.

Hieruit is naar voren gekomen dat een ruime groep (mogelijke toekomstige) cliënten (62 % van de 1200 ondervraagden) behoefte toonden aan professionele complementaire / integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg, naast reguliere seksuologische hulpverlening. Hierbij was het argument van de ondervraagden in veel gevallen de praktische en directe benadering in deze vorm van behandelen.

De (toekomstige) cliënten (54 %) gaven daarnaast aan dat zij behoefte hebben aan eerlijke en duidelijke informatie over de behandelmogelijkheden en kwaliteit binnen het gebied van de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg.

38 % van de 120 ondervraagde professionals waaronder seksuologen, (huis)artsen, gezondheids- en klinisch psychologen, fysiotherapeuten en anderen hebben aangegeven met belangstelling uit te kijken naar de verdere professionele ontwikkeling van het gebied van de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg. Zij zien deze ontwikkeling als een mogelijke zinvolle aanvulling op de reguliere seksuologische hulpverlening.

Dit alles was reden om het idee van The Connection en het Coniugium verder te ontwikkelen en te verwezenlijken.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

No tantra this monday.Happy Holidays

24.12.21 this monday there wouldn't be tantra workshop op de Valreep. Spread to others to save their time. Thanks ! Marry xmass for those who celebrate and for others happy holidays!

The Art of Sexual Extasy. - tantra bible

Very often our students are asking us what book would I recommend. Till now this is the first choice. Great manual to study and to practise. For me is like bible ;)
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
This landmark book on human sexuality makes the sacred lovemaking techniques of the East fully comprehensible to Western readers. Elegantly illustrated, it helps the reader acquire new attitudes and broaden his or her range of experience, to revitalise and strengthen relationships.
"The most comprehensive and clearly written work on contemporary Tantric sex. An exceptional detailed program for both the beginner and the advanced practitioner."
—Herbert A. Otto, author of "Total Sex".
More about the autor you can find here:

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

New Dimension party,cinema and tantra workshops.

"Action is the language of awakened self"
In this special day 21.12.12 we would like to invite You to activities to bring change in You,Us, your surrounding,neighbourhood and whole world
New Dimension Party; action is the language of the awakened self
15-19 tantra practice workshops (by appointment)
19 kundalini yoga meditation (world wide)
20 raw potluck; sharing raw vegan organic food
21 dancing time
Non-stop inspiring cinema all night
Smoke and alcohol free. 33 people max

Inspiring Cinema program
Fourth World War
Mother Earth
Battle for Seattle
Any suggestions ?
The list is not closed yet so as far the movie is inspiring bring it with You and let us know it to put it in the definite program.
Between we will play best inspiring reports from Spirit Of Squatters Collective about environment, occupy, human rights, animal rights, refugees,
squatting etc. etc.

You can join the event at fb
Friday at 15:00 until Saturday at 03:00
Address: Livornostraat 33 (1st floor) Aanmelden via:
For more info check:

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Kundalini yoga classes

One of the task what i have to do during my study for Kundalini teacher is to teach as many people as possible. In that way i will get experience by sharing my knowledge. I do lessons every day so You can join me whenever You like.

"Sexual energy is one of the most powerful forms of energy. Kundalini yoga was developed to raise sexual energy to the higher chakras, transforming it into spiritual energy and preparing us for higher levels of consciousness and vibrant health. Come!"
Regardless of your level of experience, come to have a great workout, learn the teachings of Yogi Bhajan and develop your inner strength, balance, potency and potentiality through the yoga and meditations!   Bring comfortable clothes and a friend.  Everything else will be provided. Contact to figure time what would be best in what day.

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Tantra practice workshops invitation

Now letter to our students is forwarded also to You. Use it,don't loose it :)

Dear all!
We are starting to share practice part of our workshop more widely. So as far as You showed interest before we would like to inform You and eventually involve You in the lessons. Preferable we would like work with the couples. If You don't have partner for the time of the lessons You can match with someone who also doesn't.
Especially within the spontaneous couples ( but not only ) we expect from people to learn respect their own and their partners barriers and limitations. In this matched for purpose of the training couples, our goal is that even person who have lover, who do not attend to the lessons, would fill comfortable (and their lover either). Of course we don't mind ( we even like it ;) if people who are free after or during the training would form relationship.
There is also option of teaching people as single if this feels best for them.

Every lessons may involve 3 ha of exercises what You can follow later at home and /or in Your daily life. Special programs could be discussed.
We would like to do the lessons in our lovely home ( west Amsterdam ) and we are ready to start even from next week. Tell us what do You think, how You would like to see that, what are Your feelings and expectations. Tell us also Your time schedule that we can choose the best time. And as wee said we are flexible to Your expectations. Do not hesitate to contact/ask the questions. Hopefully to hear from You as soon as possible

Lots of love and energy!

more information You can always find here:

Tantra en wetenschap.Boekpresentatie bij Dr Tara Long.Tantra festival deel 3

Uitnodiging tot verbinding
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Het woord seksuologische hulpverlener kan bij sommigen de indruk wekken dat het vakgebied van deze hulpverlener enkel en alleen seksualiteit, seksuele problemen en seksuele disfuncties bestrijkt.

In het domein van de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg werken tevens counsellors, coaches en docenten, die zich hebben gespecialiseerd op het gebied van intimiteit en (liefdes)relaties, of op het gebied van spiritualiteit en (lichamelijke) intimiteit.

De meeste behandelingen bestaan uit gesprekstherapie, vaak gecombineerd met hands-on behandelingen.  

Daarbij is belangrijk op te merken dat het merendeel van de hands-on behandelingen beslist geen sensuele/erotische en of seksuele lading mogen hebben en klinisch en medisch verantwoord dienen te worden uitgevoerd. Men kan hierbij bijvoorbeeld denken aan vaginale acupressuur behandelingen, of vaginale ayurvedische massages of paramedische anale massages, of acupressuur voor de penis in combinatie met het scrotum. Deze behandelingen bevorderen de seksuele - en algehele gezondheid van de cliënt volgens de inzichten van de holistische geneeskunde. Daarnaast verminderen ze tevens vaak overvloedige spanningen in het genitale gebied, waardoor deze behandelingen kunnen ondersteunen bij het behandelen van bijvoorbeeld vaginisme of dyspareunie.

Daarnaast zijn er behandeltrajecten waarbij er wel seksueel, intiem en erotisch mag worden aangeraakt in een behandeling. Maar dan wel alleen door speciaal hiervoor getrainde en gecertificeerde hands-on & body-on practitioners. Hierbij kan men denken aan behandelingen waarin bijvoorbeeld seksueel surrogaat partnerschap een onderdeel van de totale behandeling vormt. 

Daarnaast zijn er de sensueel getinte tantrische massages, of (hands-on) seks-coaching in een educatief coachingstraject.

Voor de paramedische en of therapeutische behandelingen geldt dat er altijd naast de uitdrukkelijke wens van de cliënt, een medische / therapeutische noodzaak moet zijn om voor bovengenoemde behandelingen in aanmerking te komen. In een uitgebreid behandelplan en behandelcontract worden hands-on interventies altijd tevoren beschreven en vastgelegd en getoetst aan het gestelde in de beroepscode.

In het vakgebied van de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg bevinden zich diverse subgebieden, zoals bijvoorbeeld seksuologisch lichaamswerk, het domein van de intimiteits- en of seks-coaching, het gebied van de love-making en love-life coaching, de surrogaat partnerschap trajecten, etc..

Vormen van complementaire seksuologische begeleiding en zorg zijn bijvoorbeeld de surrogaat partnerschap trajecten, sekszorgverleningstrajecten en of sekseducatie en of coaching.

Vormen van alternatieve seksuologische begeleiding zijn bijvoorbeeld tantra coaching en "sexual healing" (seksuele heling).[1]

Dit informatieplatform heeft naast informatie verschaffen aan het publiek, als doel verbindingen tot stand te brengen.

the connection logo smallThe Connection is daarom een verbindings- en koepelorganisatie, die nastreeft verschillende praktijken, instellingen, organisaties en individuen die werkzaam zijn in de complementaire en integrale  seksuologische zorg en hulpverlening met elkaar in contact te brengen.

coniugium logo smallDaarnaast is de beroepsgroep het Coniugium, welke nauw verbonden is met The Connection, het kwaliteitsorgaan voor professionals die werkzaam zijn in de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulpverlening en zorg.

Deze site is daarom tevens site locatie van de beroepsgroep het Coniugium. Het Coniugium is de beroepsgroep in het seksuologische complementaire en integrale domein waar uitsluitend geaccrediteerde en of gecertificeerde professionals zich mogen aansluiten.

[1] Het was gezondheidspsycholoog en seksuoloog Drs. Annemarie Tinbergen, die in 2004 de naam verbindingshuis opperde voor het in aantocht zijnde beroepsverband voor seksuologische lichaamswerkers.

[2] Wilt u meer weten over de diverse subgebieden binnen de complementaire en integrale seksuologische hulp en zorg en de definities daarvan; kijk onder Beroepsgroep, het Coniugium: Beroepsaantekeningen en Beroepstitels verklaard.

Friday, December 7, 2012

Change op de Valreep. From 20.00 to 19.00 (mondays)

Tantric evenings (op De Valreep - Polderweg 120) are happening every Mondays (not Thursdays). In december we will begin at 19.00 not at 20.00 Everyone is welcome ( and let the other know about the change that they would not come late).

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Tantra Love and Activism Theory

here You can read and download pdf version:
*Please take to account that all those videos are made at the beginning of my teachings. They're OK but You can imagine that after giving about 30 workshops my teachings improved a lot :)
One gram of practice is worth more than 1000 of theory... Here are the notes for basic workshop what i'm teaching. I hope they would be helpful. Anyway best is to attend the workshop with exercises and possibility of asking questions.Workshops/lectures/meetings are every Monday (it use to be Thursday) evenings at Valreep Polderweg 120 Amsterdam or whatever else i would be invited.

1.What is tantra ?
Tantra have so many definitions probably as many people are connected to it. There are few things what is difficult to explain and what You have to experience yourself. Tantra is one of them. For me tantra is connecting our sexuality with our spirituality, our body with our soul. It's balancing our female and male energy. It is using secret act of making love not only for our pleasure but also for getting us higher, energetic more conscious, more aware and even more unlighted. It's strengthening everything what we do in our life. By bringing our conscious to higher levels is making us more aware and active with the things what are important to humanity and/or to save the planet etc. It's making our love more sacred, more pleasurable and more fulfilling. Tantric love is transforming sexual act from short one, ended with quick ejaculation, dissatisfaction and loose of energy in to long one, what is giving us energy and is like waves of ecstasy ended up when we like it to happen. Tantra is expanding intimacy from bed to our daily life, and love from ourselves, to our partner,then to family … and to whole universe. Tantra is everything and much more what I would teach You today.
2. Love is the biggest power
Love is the biggest power. There are so many crisis's and problems nowadays than never before. That's why it is important to learn love in every way possible .Not without reasons available over centuries only for the elites secrets now are relieved to everyone. Don't miss this chance.
Even love is most important in life of most of us, there are not so many real knowledge about it. The painful paradox is that doesn't have place in school education. We can talk about big luck when we learn at least some love from our parents. To fill up this gap we wrote these words, we read them, and we giving this workshop.
3. Loss of semen means loosing energy
To start one of the basic things that we have to learn is to avoid ejaculation. During ejaculation, man loses so much energy that after he is usually only able to turn his back and sink into a deep sleep. Loosing so much creative energy if it happen more often than ones a two weeks lead to many health problems, quick frustration, quick temper lack of energy just no name the few. Average less than 10 minutes foreplay and less thanb 7-minute interaction leaves woman disappointed - She needs a lot more time to be excited, and even more to achieve orgasm.
This situation discourages woman from making love, makes her feel used and is leading to frustration in the relationship and in our lives.
4. Fore play
Therefore, before we learn to slow down or even stop the ejaculation, you should realise how important is foreplay. It's making possible to increase time of making love what give for women more satisfaction what is very important. So let Your woman decide when interaction should start. Man ( but woman either ) could find out in that way that's whole body, thankful of exchange of energy is able to ecstasy and for example tong could receive and give so much pleasure to the licking and licked person what You would never expect. For play its also a great time to get to know our erogenous maps. Mouth, breast, genitals, anus that's commonly known areas of sexual pleasure, but everyone is different and in each of us have hidden great mysteries what we will have to explore.
5 Intimacy not just in bed
Intimacy and love should not be confined just to our bedroom. Making love is not only penetration but also kind words, hugging, nice looks what we should give to our partners in all possible moments in any possible ways. Very nice habit is to cuttle together every time when we see each other. Another one: before we falling to sleep its nice to cuttle each other in the spoon position (on the side one behind another) and by sharing breathing synchronise our energies. Giving love could be also very nice by doing things together like dancing, practising partner yoga,Qi gong, having romantic dinner, taking some course together, reading to each other, doing actions etc. Especially yoga, Tao chi and Qi gong are very handy to complete tantric practise because they're dealing with flow of energy what is very important.
Ecstasy shouldn't be excluded to stay between the bedrooms walls but should be spread in all areas of our lives. Especially mans have habit to be nice mainly only when they like to make love. This is very annoying and disappointing to women. After that they very often feel used and see partners love as only way to get something...
6.Male and female energy
Very often our sexual life could improve when we just will give up leading role to the woman's. They are able to lead lovemaking in much better way that would make her more content. ...and which man would not like to satisfy his beloved ? Unfortunately not everyone is able to let themselves to switch those roles. From centuries female sex is suppressed by male sex. Because man's are ruling the world we have so much wars, climate change, hunger and other problems on the world. In the societies and tribes where woman's are leading wars are not happening so often because what kind of mother would send her son to die for any homeland? Care its a woman value so its obvious that in the matriarchal societies people are before profits. Relationship would be much more happy if we would let women decide about more things.
Of course i'm generalising here because sometimes may happens women's with male character and as well man's who prefer spend time in the kitchen or with children. This is because we all have in ourselves feminine and masculine energies, Yin and Yang, moon end sun etc. From the balance of those two polarities depends our happiness. Unfortunately,imposed on us in childhood educational standards making a men too masculine,and women too feminine.To balance this we should more often let the man to be a woman and vice versa - the woman be a man. For instance:Through the care of children
man can develop his suppressed emotionality. By letting woman to be on the top during making love ( what through centuries was prohibited ) a woman can regain her leading values. This tantric change is a good step in the struggle for rights and women's liberation. From changing ourselves we begin steps towards a better society. Therefore, we must destroy these stereotypes imposed in to us. We should let the man be emotional and sensitive. Through constant suppression of his tears he can breed a terrible disease. The same may happen to woman if they're never able to relieve her anger, etc. Let's not suppress our feelings. Let us be ourselves. Let's do it for ourselves.

7.Love Yourself

Loving ourselves is foundation of proper love. Only when we love ourselves, we can truly love others.

When we feel good about our self we will also have the self esteem needed to act in love towards another being. Proper love to ourselves would expand to proper love to our partners, family, animals, nature, whole planet en universe.

From our birth, everyone is requiring from us that we would become someone and we would achieve something. From girls everyone expect to look nice, and to be exemplary mothers and wives.

In the same time boys and later men are less judged by how they look, but more by what they have and how highly they rank in the society.

The pressure is so high that most people will constantly feel undervalued.

Thousands of billboards, advertisements are stereotyping women's that they should look like models and barbie dolls. "Never full filled unnatural ideals " getting majority of woman's in to insecurity to such an extend that they're not only fall into anorexia, getting stuffed in a chemistry to lose weight or they're suffering on the high heels etc. but above all, they stopping loving themselves.

Everyone is beautiful in its own way. The real tastes of men who are not indoctrinated by stereotypes differ from each other. Therefore, if you do not want some primitive indoctrinated guy love yourself as you are.

Ask Yourself what for You would like to be loved for? Question to woman: for that how You look like or who You are?

Question to man: For that what car do You have, how many material things did You collected or which position in the society You have or for what who You are deeply in the heart?

What kind of love it is when You always have to suspect Your beloved that she may live You when You will loos your money? What kind of love it is if You always have to suspect that when You will become older your partner would not love You any more? But to achieve that someone would truly love You, first You have to love Yourself.

To achieve this, stand in the mirror every morning (or as often as you can) and enjoy Your unique beauty, stroke and caress every part of Yourselves. Watch and love every corner and part of Your body. Be thankful for their functions.

The fact that masturbation is immoral or not ethical is another myth that should be overthrown on the way to our liberation

Masturbation is not a sin, and if you do not end up with losing the semen it may be a good exercise for singles, to learn how to work with energies breath or how to hold back the ejaculation.

8.Know Yourself

It is important to know sexual anatomy of our body. There are more than one orgasmic point than clitoris in the woman's body, so there more types of orgasm to explore, to mix and to play with.

G point is the most known. Its in front of vagina more less 7 cm depth - depends from the woman. From it depth depend the position in which could be stimulated in the best way. In touch feels like a button,sponch or a walnut. In this point very often are stored a lot of painful memories what very often are released during the orgasm. That's why when they experiencing it one of the first times, women may get suddenly angry, scared, sad and they suddenly begin to shout or cry etc. Don't be discouraged by this. It is revealing healing process what You have to go through. It is getting rid off from Your memories all bad things what happened in the past mainly to Your sexuality. In mans the G point is achievable mainly through entering the anus or slightly by massaging the perineum between testicles and anus.

U point – just below the urinary hole, about 3 cm below the clitoris. Mostly before to feel this point woman have to be already aroused. Stimulated together with point G could give so much pleasure that can lead woman to ejaculation

M Point – from the sound of mmmmm... what woman would make when is stimulated. At the bottom of vagina. Sensitive mainly only after at least one of orgasm.

There is more and less sensitive points and areas like lips, anus, perineum, breast, head, ears etc. They are varying in each woman (man) Some of them have to be stimulated more often or together or after of stimulating some other areas. By mixing stimulation of all of them we can invent our own way of ecstasy. ... Everyone is different so explore Yourself, explore Your partner. Use long time of fore play and after play


People have few senses not without the reasons. Learn how to use them during love making and how to be focus on them.

10. Ecstasy

Welcoming other certain methods in our lives may help us to expand ecstasy of our love and elevate it to higher levels, and thus in the end getting even more power to even greater love.

One of the main reason is to not go over so-called point of no return - what means moment after which ejaculation is no longer possible to contain.

Basic methods that's mainly clinching PC muscle, deep breathing, energy transfer up and down through whole body or/and pressing specific points.

11.PC Muscles

PC muscles, (sometimes cold "muscles of love" or "muscles of sex" ) are the muscles which prevents the flow of urine. By tightening these muscles we not only narrowed the possibility of sperm ejaculation but also we send the sexual energy up. If we would have to choose what is most important in the woman's life to give her power, we could think about training the PC muscle. Its not only make circulation better in the pelvic area but also giving You possibility to achieve more orgasms and getting them when you like them to happen. When woman is using it it is very pleasurable for her partner during love making

12. Breathing

For the energy flow it is very helpful to breathe deeply. Generally, if you breathe deeper you will become healthier, calmer, and more alive.

With every breath in we provide the oxygen - the energy of life. With each exhalation we are getting rid of the toxins. The deeper is breath in, the more energy we receiving. The more we breath out - the more we purify our body.

When we observe our breathing during sex, we can notice that is getting more shallow and faster as closer is to orgasm. Just as we can through deep breathing calm our fear,pain or anger, in the same way we can slow down and avoid ejaculation.

13. Synchronising and moving energy up and down

In addition, breathing synchronised with tightening PC muscle is very helpful in building up energy. Before we learn to feel energy we have to imagine it. By sending our energy around our body adding to the methods above it make even greater effect. If we synchronise those methods together with our partners we can get really high. In general by loving ourselves in relationship we not just adding our energy. Multiplying is is also said not enough... But Love we have to learn and cultivate....

To improve energy flow is also handy to press hardly our tongue in to the top of our mouth, just behind our teeth's. It helps especially when we are feeling that we're coming close to the point of no return.

14.Pressure points

Men can also stop ejaculation more mechanically. Between testicles and the anus under muscle perineum You can feel hole between the bones. By firmly pressing the hole we stop sperm to get out. During making love we may ask beloved to press this point to prevent it but before we have to let her know how and when. This is a good way to start on halting the loss of semen but because its not shutting up the energy its create it's access in the genital organs so rather is advised as emergency stop than a routine. However, in order to "ascend to heaven, we must learn to fly." So on the longer therm is better to use other methods mentioned above.


Through the transfer of energy up or to the sick body parts we can help them recover.There is probably no more effective and more pleasurable method of treatment than love.

As someone once said, "Sex can be your way to hell or to heaven" - you choose.

In the same way sex can give you energy, health and youth when it is filled with love and when you learn how to use its energy. Similarly, by the frequent loss of semen we deprive ourselves of energy, we weaken our body, and we even speeding up the processes of disease and ageing.

As tantra is focused on spirituality and ecstasy, sexual tao is more focused on health.

16. Open communication

Very important in this regard is to be open, to not be afraid to communicate how we want to be touched, kissed and loved. If it will be easy for us to describe our expectations we will avoid misunderstandings, hurts and we will gain greater satisfaction, respect and understanding. The only restrictions in making love should be free will of both partners. Sexual fantasies and expectations are different as people are different and if both sides agree on anything, no taboos, no religion, social pressures, etc. should interfere in it. So do not wait for that our partner would guess our desires or would learn telepathy. By expressing ourselves we are encouraging our partners to do the same. Most of us like that their beloved are open and communicative.

If you want to achieve satisfaction You must be open in expressing our dreams ... but also what hurts us, what we enjoy, where and how we like to be touched, kissed, licked and loved. Unfortunately, talking about making love is another taboo that must be overcomed on the way to our liberation.

There is a lot of helpful exercises to help you learn to express our own opinions and to get rid of the fear of our own openness.This will help improve communication in our bed, and later throughout also in our lives. As far as communication also very important is to learn how to not hurt each other.

While making love, we are not only dress out of our clothes - even our soul is laid bare.In that moments of intimacy is very easy to get hurt by any unpleasant remark.

Ones we got hurt by severe criticism it can make us close back and in the future we would be even more afraid to re-open. This is not to avoid to voice our opinions but to learn how to form them as constructive criticism in that way that our beloved wouldn't be wounded.

For example, note the difference between: "Why we're always hurrying I'm not ready yet" from: "Your touch is so pleasant here, could You continue a little bit longer?"

Treat Your woman as goddess and Your man as god

The world would be better if instead of the motherland at the school we would learn to love our neighbours, and people would see the gods in other people - especially in our beloved ones. Treat them like godesses, gods, not only in our bed but in whole our live.

Deep breath, scream,laugh, and touch can help the energy flow, and in the same time as well could be very exciting expression of our happiness, ecstasy, etc...

There is nothing wrong with love but only in its absence, and in the attempts to restrict that .So do not be ashamed by shouting while You making love, don't be afraid that Your neighbours would hear You. As long as they do not wake up because of that, there is nothing wrong - they're also doing it.

17. Present Moment

It is very important that we have learnt to be present at the moment with all our mind. Love is so beautiful, and even more beautiful if we would commit ourselves to it. Do not waste those beautiful moments of thinking about anything else. It is therefore important that we have our mind as clearest as possible. If some news are not useful for us they're only pollute our head like unnecessary things thrash our room. Then those thoughts like demons attack us in the most unexpected moment for example during lovemaking. Because of this we are not in 100% present and we are not able to give or receive love at the highest level. Knowledge if it is not used is just another way of over consumption, so its better that we skip the daily news about the next tragedies and catastrophes in which we can not and would not help (if we can/would help the knowledge might be handy). Less news is less chaos in our heads.

Similarly, the cleaner is our conscience, the more love we can experience. Our so-called. "Sins" (those against our own principles of ethics), are affecting us even more than unwanted messages. Especially if they relate to our beloved. We will not be able to look honestly and deeply into eyes of our beloved if we betrayed her.

By this our love may never be able to spread its wings completely. Therefore, is better do more good things, and less bad things. And here we are closing the circle that happy life You get by doing good.


This workshop is only an introduction, to encourage You to get more knowledge and practise of love. I hope that this will encourage to read about tantra, sexual tao. Maybe You will even find courses that will respond to you. As each discipline the art of love needs patience, practise time and devote. Don't get disappointed when it doesn't always works or takes time. Realise the painful emotions that can be released on the way of tantric love). Relax, You're on good way leaving behind those who are afraid to make mistakes...

It is worth to put Your time and energy in it, because it is love that's most important thing for many of us.However, even small hints like "to first blow, then tickle, then lightly kiss, and then touch and lick at the end" can be very revealing, and certainly our beloved ones will love it. Its good to varying every love making session. Don't let things rapid itself to often. Therefore, lets use our imagination, which in itself may prove to be a treasury of ideas, if only we learn, we dare to use it.

Good luck and lot of pleasure, energy and love!

Tantric Love Activist Revolution

Twenty-first century. Time of great change but also the risks and concerns.
Can we survive? Would humanity will cope with the mess that has created mainly during the last century? How far, how long, what disasters we have to experience that people would make the breakthrough of their mentality? There is still hope that if we act united in all possible ways, we can avoid destruction of our planet, extermination of generations to come, global warming, water contamination, deforestation or other consequences of our "civilised" life.

There is a power that gives the strength to the hope, gives faith that everything will be fine. This power that's love, what especially now we have to distribute in any possible way and as much as we can. Of course, we should start with ourselves, our beloved, then our children, first close and then further family, then all human beings, animals, plants and entire planet. If we start to love properly, it will not be limited just to ourselves, or eventually only to our family. Developed love does not stop just at feelings for our partners, but on understanding that if we would like to be happy we have to live altruistically. So do good to other people, animals, plants and entire planet. Everything in the universe is interconnected. Our health is increasingly dependent on the health of our planet. We can imagine that we letting in negative energy in to our body by eating every piece of meat, what had to be paid not only by animal suffering but also by the world hunger, climate change, deforestation, poisoning soil,water etc.
We wouldn't buy for a child happiness by purchasing cheap Chinese toys, produced by other children from who's childhood was taken away.
Giving for beloved heart-shaped chocolates will not pass energy of love if You was aware that to produce it, children were abused at the cocoa plantation.
If we understand good in almost all religions and all philosophical systems they're teaching us love. Why, nevertheless, it is still too little of that feeling to save the planet? Why so often still it is just selfish feeling limited only to ourselves ? Why religions that suppose to spread love to often causes bloody wars? We could probably write a book about it but here is not time and place for that.
I would go straight to the heart of the problem and the solution. To make our love mature and altruistic I'm encouraging you to familiarise yourself with positive tantra, sexual tao, tantric love which by the fact that would ascend us to higher levels of consciousness will give us healthy, happy life for ourselves and our loved ones, and eventually will open our hearts and eyes to the needs of our times. Regardless of religion, philosophical system,will bring a feeling and power of love in everything what we do.
So why wait ? Start today. Save yourself and the rest. Give happiness to yourself and others !
Happy life You get by doing good !

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Sex to Spirit. Trailer

Can sex be a spiritual experience? Can it help us transform? Could it even take us further on our path of awakening? Or is it simply a tool for procreation and recreation? Now let's be honest – most of us enjoy sex. For centuries, religions have told us it's a sin, but the vast majority of us have discovered the joy of sex. But what if there's even more heights to discover? What if we could embrace sex, and use it as fuel to rocket us into the divine? What if sex was the launchpad that could lift us into ecstasy? What if we could use it to come face to face with God, or Goddess? Could we? Should we? And if so, how?

In the upcoming feature-length documentary "Sex to Spirit," we lift the lid on one of the most controversial spiritual paths ever to exist. This path contains ancient teachings that incorporate sex into a wider system of spiritual transformation – teachings which are now being reawakened and renewed for out time.

Join us as we journey behind closed doors, gaining unique access to teachers who use sexual energy as fuel for change. Enter intensive workshops and one-to-one sessions, and witness as students experience the heights of ecstasy, surface repressed issues, transform sexual energy into spiritual power, and journey on the roller-coaster ride of transformation.

Because it embraces sex, this ancient system has been forced to go underground many times over thousands of years. Today it is returning once again. At it's heart, it aims to bring about a realization of truth – in the body – right here right now. It brings freedom, vitality and totality into daily life. Those that live it, take every aspect of life as an expression of the divine. By merging it with our lives, we learn how to live from the heart, in relationship with the world around us. We learn to live as love.

Our film unfolds on tropical islands in Thailand and Indonesia – focal points for transformation and ecstatic awakening. We invite you to join us on the adventure, and find out what this spiritual path is really about. The path is called Tantra – and through this film you can discover the truth about this spiritual system – as we go on the journey from Sex to Spirit.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Tantra festival.Deel 2: Dr.Tara Long interview

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Dr. Tara Long (pseudoniem) (oprichter & bestuurslid Connection / Coniugium in de functies van Secretaris en Vice-voorzitter)
Studeerde o.a. cognitieve - en neuropsychologie in Utrecht en Amsterdam. In 1994 behaalde zij haar doctoraal als psychologisch onderzoeker. Zij specialiseerde zich daarna verder als integraal en transpersoonlijk psycholoog / seksuoloog met als interessegebieden: dieptepsychologie, psychologische antropologie, sociale psychologie, cognitieve creativiteitspsychologie en ontwikkelingspsychologie.

Zij is naast haar werk als docent, coach en transpersoonlijk counsellor werkzaam als onderzoeker op het gebied van meervoudige begaafdheid, intelligentie en creativiteit bij top professionals in de kunst en wetenschap.

Long promoveerde op 20 augustus 2009 met een kwalitatief psychologische studie naar het artistieke creatieproces en creatieve performance. Zij behaalde daarmee de graad Doctor of Science in Psychology.

Daarnaast behaalde Long op 14 mei 2010 een academische graad in de klinische seksuologie. De afgelopen twaalf jaar specialiseerde zij zich tevens in de VS als lichaamsgericht seksuoloog (somatic sexologist). Zij is een specialiste op het gebied van (seksuele) mindfulness en multi-orgastisch bewustzijn. Vanwege haar vernieuwende en controversiële opvattingen binnen de wetenschap van de seksuologie, heeft zij bewust ervoor gekozen zich niet aan te sluiten bij de reguliere Nederlandse beroepsorganisatie (NVVS). 

Daarnaast ontwikkelt Long zich momenteel als onafhankelijk seksuologisch onderzoeker. Zij is de enige onderzoeker in Nederland, die systematisch onderzoek verricht naar overdracht en tegenoverdracht in de (seksuologische) hulprelatie, bezien vanuit het perspectief van de therapeut.

Long volgde naast haar academische opleidingen, diverse holistische massage-opleidingen in binnen en buitenland, o.a. in 1999 bij de beroemde Taoistische meester Mantak Chia. Kreeg vervolgens haar tantrische initiatie vanuit de Tibetaanse School. Beoefent tevens Chi Gong en Yoga. Volgde lessen in emotioneel en energetisch lichaamswerk. Werd in 1995 geïnitieerd als sjamaan, metafysisch en sexual healer door psychiater en sjamaan Astrid de Vreese.

In 2009 werd Long tevens gerespecteerd lid van de "The Buddhist Society" in Londen.

Sinds 2000 leidt Tara een coachingspraktijk op het gebied van intimiteit, seksualiteit en liefdesrelaties, welke zich baseert op integrale principes en filosofie. De behandeling van cliënten geschiedt volgens diezelfde integrale inzichten en aanpak.

Fred Traugott (mede-oprichter, ex-bestuurslid Connection)
Fred heeft diverse opleidingen gevolgd op het gebied van tantra en seksualiteit uit oost en west onder andere de 2 jarige tantratraining van het SkyDancing Instituut, Human Awareness Institute en hulpverlening bij vaginisme en dispareunie. Hij is jaren werkzaam gweest als tantra-trainer en seks-docent. Respect en vrije keuze zijn Fred's sleutel-woorden ten aanzien van seksualiteit. Inmiddels is Fred met pensioen en heeft hij zijn praktijk gesloten.Als oprichter van werd hij door diverse tv- en radio programma's in binnen- en buitenland uitgenodigd om zijn visie op tantra en seksualiteit te geven. Hij heeft vele workshops over tantra en seksualiteit ontworpen en geleid.

Centrum voor LevensLust is in 2002 opgezet door Fred Traugott. In het Centrum worden professionele groeps en individuele trainingen en coachings aangeboden op het gebied van intimiteit en seksualiteit. Daarnaast organiseert het Centrum voor LevensLust workshops op het gebied van tantra en seksualiteit, zoals thematische

In de nabije toekomst wil Fred zich gaan toeleggen op het publiceren van artikelen en boeken.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Tantra Festival.Part 1:Jan de Boer.Schakel door naar je hart


Emoties en gedachten zijn als golven op de zee
De illusie is dat je de golf bent,
waardoor je meegesleurd wordt in het dagelijks leven.
Je echte bewustzijn is als de diepe zee,
een pure liefdevolle aanwezigheid,
waarin de golven kunnen opkomen en verdwijnen,
zonder dat er iets verandert aan de zee.  

Leven vanuit je hart is populair: het zijn niet alleen zweverige cursussen die deze slogan promoten, er is ook een bank die adverteert met 'volg je hart' en het CDA profileert zich met 'politiek recht uit het hart'. Op bussen van het Gemeentelijk Vervoersbedrijf Utrecht gaat het om 'hart voor de klant'. Een bekend managementboek stelt dat alle theorieën over management overbodig zijn en dat je 'gewoon je hart moet volgen'. Deze nadruk op het volgen van je hart is een logische tegenbeweging voor het doorgeslagen vrijemarktkapitalisme, de doorgeslagen managementcultuur en benadrukking van het eigenbelang. Als leven vanuit je hart zo eenvoudig was, zou het gewoon gebeuren. Waarom doen we het dan niet?

Onze cultuur kent een sterke nadruk op de rationaliteit, het cognitieve deel van ons bewustzijn. Bijzonder nuttig als het om echte cognitieve zaken gaat, zoals het berekenen van de sterkte van een brug, maar bijzonder beperkt als het gaat om verbinding, schoonheid, liefde en integriteit. De keerzijde van de rationaliteit die we ook heel goed kennen, is de emotionaliteit. Het korte lontje, de onderbuikgevoelens, conflicten, ruzie, jaloezie, boosheid en hebzucht: de negatieve gevolgen hiervan zien we elke dag in onze omgeving en in onszelf. We zien in onze cultuur een golfbeweging tussen rationaliteit en emotionaliteit, maar beide leveren de nodige problemen op.

hart golven

De middenweg tussen de ratio vanuit het hoofd en de emotie vanuit de buik ligt letterlijk in het hartgebied: leven vanuit liefdevolle aandacht. Zoals uitdrukkingen en slogans tonen, ervaren we dus intuïtief dat leven vanuit het hart mooi en goed is, maar door een enorme verwarring in terminologie, gedrag en ervaring blijft dit 'leven vanuit het hart' vaak in een mistig gebied hangen, om vervolgens in het niets op te lossen.

Leven vanuit hart, leven vanuit je gevoel, is echter te leren en ook helder onder woorden te brengen. In het boek Schakel door naar je hart. Het trainen van de vrije wil, wordt dit op een veelzijdige manier beschreven en verbeeld. Verhalen die je gevoel raken, verhalen uit de praktijk van onderwijs tot architectuur en een onderbouwing vanuit filosofie wetenschap en boeddhisme. Maar alleen verhalen en onderbouwing zijn niet genoeg om te leren leven vanuit een gevoel. Het is vooral een kwestie van oefenen, en in het boek staan dan ook veel oefeningen en meditaties. 

Als je nu al iets wil zien en horen van dit verhaal kun je video's van trainingen bekijken.

Om te leren leven vanuit je gevoel is een veelzijdig aanbod aan trainingen, lezingen en colleges beschikbaar. Geplande trainingen, maar ook trainingen die in opdracht op maat gemaakt kunnen worden op veel verschillende vakgebieden. 

Als je een vast wilt proeven van oefeningen en meditaties kun je er een aantal uitproberen en downloaden link naar pagina trainingen en meditaties

Hieronder het programma voor de komende tijd:

Zaterdag 26 januari 2013: workshop Schakel door naar je hart. Djoj, Rotterdam, 10: 30-17:00, € 65

Zondag 2 juni: workshop Schakel door naar je hart. Djoj, Rotterdam, 10: 30-17:00, € 65


Tantrafestival is uitverkocht

Het negende tantrafestival, dat wordt gehouden op zaterdag 3 november 2012 in Centrum Djoj in Rotterdam, is vol. Het aantal aanmeldingen heeft het maximum bereikt.

Het jaarlijkse festival is telkens een kans op kennismaking en inspiratie, maar ook op vernieuwing en verdieping. Een kans om te proeven van de verschillende vormen van tantra en dergelijke. Dat betekent ook dat de sfeer en de inhoud van de workshops heel verschillend kan zijn. Soms is het meer gericht op spiritualiteit en meditatie, soms meer op intimiteit en seksuele energie, soms beide. Wel houden alle begeleiders er rekening mee dat het een laagdrempelige dag is waar iedereen ontspannen mee kan doen met de activiteiten.

Hier vind je het programma van het tantrafestival 2012.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Lucky cards projects -> only when You share or/and use it ;)

This could be Your lucky card !
... but only when You use it or/and pass it to someone who You like

This are our cards to share the message about our new pages and possibilities to learn tantra from us. Print it and give as gift for the people who may needed. Enjoy the play and let it circulate!
more info here of course here: